We all go through transitions, but doing them successfully is what matters. At this time I’m going through quite a few life changes: a new job, exercise/diet, and changes with this site (all good of course!). Excitingly, you’ll be hearing about my old job in the future (I performed a few social experiments) and the changes with this iste (there are some exciting happenings going on).
However, as I begin my new job advising college students and adjust my diet to a more natural foods approach and perform Russian Kettlebell exercises (you know, usual stuff…), it’s easy to get lost in everything. Hell, it’s easy to abandon it all and fall back into old routines. So what keeps me going?
Myself! It’s not about being inspired by others, although that does happen. It’s about self-satisfaction, becoming the person I want to be, and living the life I want to live.
If you’re not where you want to be there’s no one to blame but yourself.
I may not be travelling all over the world doing seminars opening people’s minds to becoming their true self and be the way they truly desire. But I know I want to and it’s my responsibility.
So when you’re going through your transitions focus on what your really want and make time for it. It sucks as I’m ready to go to bed so I can wake up early to go for a jog before work, but I have to make sure I write for all of you and that it’s high quality as well. Anything less is unacceptable.
Remember that you don’t write a paper with the stroke of a key or dig a grave with the swipe of a shovel (unless it’s a really big shovel). You create the words and piece them together, or you plot your land and dig, dig, dig. Take it step by step.
Transitions are exactly that - TRANSITIONS. Not immediations (I just created a word!) or sudden changes. Ease into them and gradually work your way out of the past and into the future you wish to create.
Once you’re in a life change at least you know it’s happening. If you’re waiting for someone to open the gates or give you permission, abandon those thoughts. They don’t know any more than you do, only what they’ve been taught. You don’t need another's permission. Here’s a quote from the Facebook Page:
“If you end up with a boring miserable life because you listened to your mom, your dad, your teacher, your priest, or some guy on television telling you how to do your shit, then you deserve it.” - Frank Zappa
This is so true. Live life on your own terms. There are so many options and opportunities that we turn to others and use their decisions because we’re afraid to make a mistake, or worse, we don’t make a choice at all. Mistakes are okay, and if you don’t like what you've chosen then choose again. Whether you quit your job and find a new one or decide the shirt you bought wasn’t for you and you return it. That’s fine – you've learned and moved on. Now you have learned something about yourself and won’t make the same mistake again (well, let’s hope not!).
What life transition are you going through? Even the most minor count!