If you’re anticipating some inflated piece about why you need to follow your dreams and can somehow be the exception to life’s difficulties because you’re “different,” this isn’t that piece. In case you haven’t noticed, that exception is just about every single person on this planet, trying to convince themselves of a lie to make it through the day.
By trying to achieve your dreamy goals and battling your way through the day like a ninja warrior, you’re causing yourself endless amounts of unnecessary discomfort, stress, unhappiness, depression, and lack of self-worth.
How’s this sound for familiarity?
- + Constantly striving towards your goals, but ending up more disappointed for your lack of progress.
- + Spending more time always working on something for the future rather than actually enjoying where you’re at right now.
- + Always coming up with a reason why you aren’t doing what you love now because it will come in the near future; yet it never arrives.
- + Setting goals for your future self rather than your current self?
That sounds almost as depressing as those starving children commercials, right? It doesn’t have to be.
I hope you’ve taken your Xanax today, because what I’m about to say may make you a little anxious:
You need to kill your dreams and you need to kill them now.
I mean, let’s really take a look at this. What is a dream? Better yet, what are your dreams?
> Probably something along the lines of those “familiarity” points above. A goal you’ve set for yourself, the fairytale ending, or the perfect job perhaps?
Maybe it’s the career you envisioned for yourself out of college or 20 years later. Perhaps the body you wish you had or snappy personality and style that will make you so sophisticated others will be groveling at your feet.
All of those are ideas of perfection.
However, I was once told that perfection doesn’t exist because it can’t be measured – and there’s some truth to that.
So what is perfection, other than your idealistic dreams?
Perfection: The condition, state, or quality of being free or as free as possible from all flaws or defects. - My friend, Google
What I’m trying to politely (and not so politely) shove in your face is this: don’t get so caught up in your dreams that you get stuck.
When you only focus on those specific dreams and goals, striving to be perfect, you become narrow-minded in the process. You begin to only go after past thoughts, rather than living in the present and letting your goals naturally unfold.
Perfection may not be measurable, but you can feel it.
You can feel the way the sun sets and the moon glows, or how the tide goes in and out.
It’s in the way flowers bloom and seasons change.
The way a mother gives birth or the way you change someone’s life by saying a few words at just the right moment.
It’s even in the way a person follows a dream and falls into something even better than they ever realized existed.
Moving forward, you have to believe in yourself and learn from your decisions. What will unfold for you ends up being so much more than could even be conceived. Because as you move along, you learn more and more about yourself and the world.
This is much better than those preconceived notions and desires you originally catapulted yourself towards – this is much better than your past thoughts.
There is such a thing as perfection, but not in the way you traditionally see it. Those ideal thoughts, dreamy goals, and visions you have are just a few ideas of perfection. Although the ideas rarely turn out exactly as you pictured them, they are what drive you and help you to set the next bar. As you move towards those thoughts, that vision develops and changes in line as you develop. The perfection lies in the process and the connecting of the dots, not in the desired result.
So yes, to trust in connecting those dots is to trust in yourself. When your intentions are clear, the vision will unfold: not always in the way you desire, but in the way that truly works and from the groundwork that you have already laid down.
So kill your dreams, move towards your vision, and let your life unfold. You will be happier, better enjoy where you’re at, and love yourself more. That sounds pretty damn perfect to me!