Solving A Disconnect Between The Heart & Mind

Do you remember when you were a kid and you knew exactly what you wanted to be when you grew up? If anyone asked, you’d say proudly “I wanna be a doctor… a lawyer… a firefighter… a policeman…” Some even said they wanted to be a princess or a ninja! As you came closer and closer to growing up, your goals for yourself changed with different interests you picked up, learning about more careers, and lastly (and saddest of all), negativity regarding what you want for yourself. You flunked a class… you didn’t get on the team… didn’t get into your dream college… your family doesn’t approve of what you want to do… thus, you reconfigured your goals for yourself based on what you thought you could only do.


Your goals don’t always align with your heart. Your heart knows from the beginning what you truly desire, but your brain picks up on the world around you (including what people say). You know what you want, but there’s that conflict with what you’ve heard. Sometimes we can’t even find the words to describe what our heart knows because it’s never been done before. Eventually we sort it all out, hopefully...... But like a great friend of mind says: “For most people everything working out happens when you die. Move towards what you want and then it will come together. ”Or to paraphrase transcendentalist Henry David Thoreau: “most men lead lives of quiet desperation… go in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you’ve imagined!”


We go through life with a mix between what we learn for ourselves and what we’re told. We hope everything comes together at some point. Whether you’re on the path you were set on or ended up where you least expected, it’s your doings that got and get you to where you are or want to be.


Follow your heart and do what you want. If you don’t get what you want right away then work towards it. “If at first you don’t succeed, try, try, try, try, try, try again” means something more than just wishing! However, persistence doesn’t guarantee we’ll end up where we want to go. People come up with this idea that if you don’t follow the original path that you want and end up somewhere else then it was meant to be. I believe that, but I also believe we choose where we end up. For instance, if you want to be the most successful music artist then you can do it, but the route may not be what or how you planned. On the other hand you may end up in another field because you didn’t know what to expect and then didn’t want to do it. There’s nothing wrong with that, but you are the ultimate decision maker. You choose your sacrifices, your gains, and your history. Don’t let the gatekeepers of the world dictate how you live your life. It’s exactly that - Yours


The Lesson - Whatever you’re doing, make sure you enjoy it. If it’s not what you anticipated, that’s okay. Likes and dislikes change throughout life; it would be boring otherwise. When you can find that combination between your heart and the world that’s been laid out to us, you’ll be unstoppable. No matter where you are, you have the ability to change the world around you and choose how you’re going to fulfill your passions and dreams. Eventually the path will become clearer the more you get to understand your heart and work towards your goals.