Welcome to this episode of I’ve Been Trained to Lie
Starring: Everyone, Myself Included
For this episode - I ask people what they want to be or what they really want out of life. I get traditional answers: “I’d like to be a lawyer, I want to be a doctor, or I want to own a business and be rich, etc.” This is not Oprah. Be honest. Everyone tries to sound like they know what they’re talking about. You may sound good, but you have no idea what you’re doing with your life.
Now is the time to really dig deep and understand yourself, not just to do what you’ve been taught. The problem starts during high school when it’s the time for most people to go to college. You constantly have people asking you “what do you want to be” and for the most part not a person is sure. The reason: Nobody taught them how to understand themselves, figure out what they really want out of life, and how to start achieving it. So guidance counselors and everyone start throwing ideas at them and the student grabs one they think they like and then say which college they’re going to for that. Actually, sometimes there isn’t even anyone to help the students.
Then you get to college and go through classes and then debate whether to change. About half of college students change their major. They hop from advisor to advisor trying to figure out what they might like, while almost all advisors have a specific agenda whether they know it or not. Or someone may point out that you are good at specific tasks so you think “this is what I should be doing”. Well, that’s not the best approach. I may be good a shoveling shit, but it doesn’t mean I want to do it for the rest of my life. So you go with what you’ve heard and end up graduating with a major you might like...
… and then go out into the workforce and now you have to set yourself apart and you still aren’t sure what you want. In reality, you should have someone to show the way to your dreams and how to achieve them.
As for others, some don’t even go to college. There’s nothing wrong with that, but find what you love and make it work. However, the road ahead may present more challenges. College graduates make more in their lifetime and there are fewer and fewer good jobs out there that don’t require a college degree of some kind. It’s possible; that’s what has set the rich apart throughout history - Thinking ahead, finding the loopholes, knowing how to make the world work for them.
This can help, just be real. What have you always found fulfilling? Rewarding? Inspirational? Invigorating?
So stop living a life of half-truths and misguided perceptions.
Why do you get up in the morning? What’s makes you tick?
Other than the alarm clock, your friends, "job", and family.